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The 5-step success guide to stress-free surrogacy

Updated: Feb 10, 2022



Learn about how to manage a surrogacy effectively and guarantee a success — plan to avoid the typical stresses and worries of becoming parents through surrogacy.


You love kids; wish to hold your own in your arms. Or, you are parents already, and now want to grow your family. Welcoming kids in this world is a very satisfying responsibility.


However, despite the heartfelt wish, carrying a pregnancy might be out of reach for many of us for physiological and medical constraints.


Surrogacy can be the answer to your parenting dreams.


It is a time-tested assisted reproductive procedure and an engaging and rewarding experience for any intended parents. They don’t miss out the emotional connect with pregnancy and, at the same time, can overcome the reproductive limitations.


However, surrogacy can be a little overwhelming (and, unnecessarily complicated) when we fail to manage the whole process diligently. So, be careful.


Follow this straight and simple 5-step surrogacy guideline.


Understanding Surrogacy related terms

  1. Surrogate - This refers to the woman who carries a child in her womb on behalf of another individual. Traditional surrogates also offer her egg in embryo creation and maintain a direct biological link with the child.

  2. Intended parents - This is self-explanatory; refers to the individual who is willing to be the ultimate legal parent of the newborn taking birth through the surrogacy.

  3. Gestational carrier - In modern surrogacy, both of the parents can have a direct biological link with the baby through their eggs and sperms. Unlike traditional surrogacy, here the surrogate just offers her womb without contributing her eggs in embryo creation. Such surrogates are medically known as a gestational carrier. They carry the pregnancy without a direct biological link with the child.

  4. Compassionate surrogacy - Such surrogates offer their wombs only on humanitarian ground and deny to accept monetary payments in exchange for their service. Surrogates within the family of intended parents often belong to this group.

  5. Commercial surrogacy - These are traditional surrogates or gestational carriers who accept money as compensation for carrying a child. However, as intended parents, you should be respectful to a commercial surrogate as no amount of money can compensate for her physical and mental involvement throughout the pregnancy. Their service is truly invaluable.


Picking of professionals


Conceiving a baby is a medical process, but surrogacy is more than that. You need the support of experts from different fields like, endocrinology, mental health, fertility insurance and surrogacy law - just to name a few.


Amateurs and rookies can seriously misfire in the absence of expert support. So, opt for professionals only. A smarter decision will be to choose surrogacy consulting agencies instead of consulting individual professionals independently.


Surrogacy agencies not just offer a team of competent professionals but also ensure smooth communication between the teams.


In terms of costs, services of agencies might be a little more than choosing professionals independently. But the value added by a surrogacy agency is indispensable.


Finding surrogate and donors (if needed)


Lucky you are if you have someone in the family willing to be the surrogate.

That is not the case for the majority. Understandably, all intended parents are overly concerned about how to choose the surrogate.


After all, you cannot invest your parenting dream on someone who is not medically fit, psychologically unstable, or morally not responsible!


At the same time, we all need to learn that a perfect match is not always workable. It is advisable to follow a balanced and scientifically surrogate screening process.


Prepare your surrogate screening criteria or ask the agency, you choose, about their screening procedures.


In some cases, intended parents do need to find donors of healthy eggs and sperms. That makes the screening processes even more critical. Support of a surrogacy agency can be a blessing in such cases.


Estimating costs correctly


Having a clear understanding of the total budget is essential for a successful surrogacy and avoiding unwanted hiccups.


Sometimes, intended parents fail to pay up because of incorrect budgeting. You do not need to pay everything up-front, but you must know what the costs throughout the surrogacy are. That helps everyone involved.


Knowing the legalities


Every state in the US has its surrogacy law. The same is true for any other country.


When you are opting for international surrogacy, complying laws in multiple jurisdictions becomes essential.


And regulations, as we all know, can be tricky to abide by sometimes.


Hiring a competent legal expert is as important as understanding the implications of laws yourself. So, get acquainted with legalities when you decide to begin your surrogacy journey.


You can enjoy becoming parents through surrogacy when you know the procedure better. It is unwise to get into surrogacy procedure with half-baked information and unscientific bias. Keep yourself stress free.


Enjoy the wonder of the modern assisted reproductive technology.

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